Telling people to see a therapist, or psychologist, when they say they are depressed is super dismissive, and unhelpful.

You're right my writing was a bit reactive and I got a bit too far towards one extreme of the debate.

I understand that some problems are organic / chemical. After all, I myself, have some personality aspects that I struggle with (such as high neuroticism and proneness to anxiety) which I think are organic.

What I mean is that in most situations when people routinely and without much attempt to understand suggest professional help, it can sound... at least it sounds to me, as if they try to make your situation and struggles sound like it's nothing too difficult and the problem is only in your mind. Which to me sounds a bit dismissive.

However yes, some problems do indeed have organic / neurological causes. And perhaps pills can help in this situation, perhaps combined with therapy.

A lot also depends on self-awareness. Some people have this self awareness to judge if their life is really extremely difficult and that is what's making them depressed and overwhelmed, or there is some chemical/organic problem (which would be more likely if your life on paper sounds perfect, and you're still depressed).

What I meant to say, is that some people from the first category, who perhaps have really difficult life, when they reach out for help, they don't really want to hear that it's all about their brain.

On the other hand there are people like you who also have awareness that it's your chemicals that make it difficult for you.

All in all, I have nothing against suggesting therapy... but I have a lot against routinely suggesting therapy, sometimes even with the condescending tone, with implied meaning "your problems are not really that bad, it's all in your head".

Yeah, sometimes, it's in head, but sometimes it's actually real hard life stuff. And sometimes it's combination, where you have loads of real shit to deal with, and then your brain chemistry is just making it even harder for you to do so.

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