I know its my weight. Like I said, I know it's an erection killer. During my depression, I let myself go. The process of weight loss has been my life's battle. I try to communicate with him that I'm trying giving him updates on a weekly basis. I know there's guys out there that would fuck me.

I guess my point is if the shoe was on the other foot would I seriously avoid sex with hin, and I know of course I wouldn't avoid it. I guess I can take mind over matter. I know this from experience. I have exes who were very overweight and it's never mattered to me.

Anyways, thank you for your advice. the only problem is when I get 'serious' about (I've always been serious, it's just for sake of this conversation) I fall back on my ass. Finally the slow and steady approach is working, but I'm worried I'm too slow.

Thank you again for your advice.