The term “emotional/social vampire” comes to mind in regards to this. I.e. people who do a favour and expect something owed in return.

Then you get into the argument of who is more deserving of help. Who am I to make that judgement? The obvious answer seems like someone that is poor and on the streets but maybe they just finished raping someone! But who can say whether they deserve it or not more over someone who looks like they have money but is drowning in debt because of their child's medical bills? Maybe it's myself because I'm a victim of severe abuse and don't have the mental resources to take care of anyone but myself? It's such a hard call to make because we rarely know all the variables.

Generally I agree though, you're limited to a certain amount of fucks in life, use them wisely.

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