Test 6

My boyfriend is accusing me of acting shady and having feelings for my exes. I think he’s paranoid. Who’s right?

My boyfriend of 6 months believes that I act strangely about my exes and is worried that I still have feelings for them. I think it’s just that he lacks experience (he’s never had an LTR and was a virgin before me). I’ve dated a lot of guys, but only been dumped twice - by Sean (2015 summer), and Sam (2011-2014, college boyfriend).

When we first started dating, he saw my exes in my “recent searches” on Facebook. He thought it was weird to look up exes; I told him I wasn’t obsessed, just curious. I rarely look up people’s profiles so they just happened to be my most recent. He let it go, but kept “joking” that I had feelings for them because I admitted I eventually wanted to be friends with them.

The jokes turned into accusations about a month ago. He claimed I was shielding my phone (I wasn’t hiding anything, but it makes me uncomfortable when people read over my shoulder or hold my phone). On Valentine’s, we coincidentally went on Sean’s favorite hike and then to see Sean’s favorite band (I didn’t plan this!). So I thought about him, and idly pulled up an old message I’d written to him. I forgot to close, so It was open when I later unlocked my phone in front of my boyfriend. I reflexively swiped to delete it. My boyfriend assumed it was a new text that I was planning to send, and I couldn’t prove otherwise.

Last week I had a nightmare, and was honest when he asked me about it: it was a stress dream featuring Sam and the girl he may have cheated on me with. That night, he read some of my Facebook messages with Sam. Back in December, I made vague lunch plans with Sam to catch up. I then asked my boyfriend if it was okay; he said no, so I cancelled.

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