Are you me?? Seriously, this is a similar cycle I get into with my lower libido partner. It's so hard sometimes. The feeling of rejection without TTC was massive, and now it feels worse when TTC. Especially when I have to go through all the stuff every month. To help with these frustrations we've started seeing a sex therapist. Have you tried a therapist together yet? I'm trying to read all I can about mismatched libidos, and how I can best communicate my needs and also improve on my own role in the need-rejection cycle we have going on. I'm trying to not use sex as a tool to feel validated that I am beautiful or desired, and try and seek that validation within myself. That being said it is still really really hard when sex feels like a fundamental need, and the other person simply doesn't get it. I'm hoping that the therapist will help. I've visited some forums, but I don't think I'm fully ready for them yet because they can be quite negative. I have a lot of hope for my partnership, but I realise that being in it long term means constantly having to accept our missmatch, and doing a lot of work to make it work for us.

Just remember that his desire is no reflection of your desirability, and only indicative of his libido. Try and work out what you can both work on to get to a better place together. I can't really say what the answer is (if you figure it out let me know!!) but I hope you find one :)