I understand how the misconception that bigger is always better propagated and remains prevalent. I, and many others, used to think I was just average due to simple ignorance and no one really talking about it.

I've also had a handful of conversations with friends who have, in moments of candor, told me that they are small or below average, and that they are disappointed and self-conscious about it. More than once they've said they'd rather be too large, rather than smaller but optimal for many woman. One even insisted that "you want it to be kind of painful"... He was an intelligent, empathetic feminist, but I find these issues often make people irrational. I assume that idea was either planted or heavily reinforced by porn. Granted I've known some women who've said they kind of like if it hurts a little, but it's been far from universal, and more often than not it's a huge hindrance to sexy-time. A lot of positions and "tempos" are off-limits to you -- there is no such thing as a "quickie", or an impassioned event without a lot of preparation (which I really don't mind, I really enjoy delayed gratification and foreplay, but sometimes the women I've been with wanted a change of pace and/or all of the preparation required made it feel more like a scheduled event rather than spontaneous for them)--sometimes it's bad enough to the point of being a blanket sexual incompatibility. I'm not even huge, but I've personally had things fizzle out with a number of potential partners/fwbs because either: sex was too painful, or we physically didn't fit together (people say the vagina can accommodate any size, but certainly not length-wise, and I definitely was never going to push the women if anything if they didn't want to keep trying--if they said it didn't fit then it didn't fit, end of story). So great to have a bd huh?

Anyway, I'm glad too that there is at least some place where these issues on the other end of the size spectrum are acknowledged. I think it's good for those of us who are big and small to have a lot of the misconceptions swept away.