No, it's a drain on so many resources to try to help a drug addict and they make seriously bad choices along the way that impacts everyone. It's extremely difficult for everyone, and it's hard to continue to invest time, money and energy into someone on a destructive path. Addiction leaves a ton of collateral damage, and not everyone can handle it. It's not about seeing the addict as weak or stubborn. It's about recognizing that family can't help you and they don't want to be pulled down with you.
My brother is finally in rehab after over a decade of drug abuse. My parents did everything for him prior to recovery.
In the meantime, he'd stolen all of my valuable jewelry while I was away in grad school, stolen all of my dad's jewelry including some heirlooms and pawned them. He can't keep job, being fired for every one. Several had been for theft.
He's wrecked every car he owns, which sent his premiums sky high (my parents paid) and he is now at the point where no insurance will take him. It's all well and good, since his license is now suspended. child He decided he was at the in his life where he wanted a child, so he had a kid with another unemployed welfare drug addict that had three kids from three different men (one was stillborn), and knocked her up within weeks of them dating. My parents are raising her now. She's 5.
There is constant drama in the house. Arguments, physical fights, death threats, etc. He never chips in with money to raise his own daughter. She has to beg him to play with her.
Since he's now in recovery, my parents are paying $100 a week while they wean him off of drugs. My mom drives him to and from work for the night shift, which is from 10 pm to 5 AM. She also takes his daughter to and from school, helps with her homework, cooks her meals, etc.
I've cut ties with him a long time ago, and I've watched the pain he's put my family through. I wouldn't have blamed them for kicking him out, but they didn't, not for extended periods of time, anyway. Meanwhile, their qualify of life has been significantly impacted by his decisions. My father can't retire because his expenses are so high. His credit is ruined by trying to help my brother get a car and putting it under his name, but my brother didn't make payments like they agreed to.
The dude is damn near 30 and has only recently left home to pay less than a third of market value in rent on property my parents own. My parents pay the difference in the mortgage. It was supposed to be a rental property to help supplement my dad's retirement.
All of the help my family tried to do tore them down until he finally took initiative to bring himself up. Even still, he's a drain on everyone.