Do you think there are more differences among genders or between them?

Trigger warning: Talking about my sexual fantasies.

Well, my sexuality is based on sensation and aura but this has caused me issues, cuz one of my big requirements for pleasant sex is being wanted/accepted, which has caused some sexual frustration because it's difficult to have a sexual fantasy and imagine a woman wanting me as badly as I want her, cuz I'm not particularly attractive at all, nor can I imagone women having much desire for me. Maybe many men choose to care about visual cues INSTEAD cuz then they don't have to be wanted/accepted, but for me this mindset just had too many negative consequences despite maybe being good for my sexuality's sake. Caring about sensation/aura has more human interaction and empathy than pure visual I think

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