Invalidating other people's trauma doesn't help you heal your own, you know? I gotta be honest, this post made me extremely angry because this is the mindset of the abuser. You are asking if people who have been traumatised by rape were even really traumatised if they had developed a sense of self or had a support network before or after they were raped. Sounds just like "don't complain to me about you suffering you don't know how bad I had it" - a phrase that is echoed through generations of abusive families. You don't need to proactively support every other human who experienced trauma to simply not shit on people who didn't suffer to the same degree as you. The abuse and suffering you can perpetrate while operating under this mindset is real.