Is there a best way to break NC?

i read this article that said you should wait at the minimum 30 days to break NC, then basically ask an innocuous question but with subtext of a good memory. i planned on doing that, but i ended up breaking NC a week early because my ex's friend died. so i called him and left a voicemail. i thought he wouldn't have responded back, but he did though text and we texted for about 2 weeks. for me anyway when we texted it was a total high. and when he ghosted it was a total low. i waited another month and thought about trying again, but i kept putting it off (because I thought, do i want to go there again?), but then he got hit by a car, so i used that as my excuse. again we texted for about 2 weeks. same highs and lows. it felt great speaking to him again and i was happy. but like before he ghosted. the first time he ghosted i sent this email saying that i was worried about him and if he thought i was being inappropriate in contacting him to tell me and i would completely stop. but he didn't. so we kept going. finally two weeks ago (in total it's been six months that we've been apart and on and off texting) i broke NC after 2 months and i thought maybe we would finally see one another, but he ghosted and i freaked out and basically went crazy on him. he kept implying that we would be sleeping with one another and then i called him out on that, asking if that was true, he then blocked me on facebook. Waking up to that just set me off and i sent a seriesof texts and a long email and he just said stop talking to me.

so if you want to break NC, tread very carefully. you're definitely going to get texting highs, but be prepared to get texting lows and go into a slump. my last attempt was to try to at least see him because i was convinced that he wasn't 100% sold on breaking up and that if he saw me his feelings would come back. I really just wanted a casual dinner with no expectations, but he didn't want to go there even after he promised me we could get coffee. I thought maybe that's why he didn't want to see me.

I think regardless of what you do, you just have to be prepared. You may make contact and she may not respond back and you have to be ready for that. Or like it my case, he did respond back, but then ghosted and the hurt just came back full force. But I don't regret breaking NC. It was only doing that did I see we could never get back together.

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