Is there a girl/boy you adore that you simply can't make yourself approach? What makes her/him unapproachable?

Haven't spoken to her in about three years. I met her through my best friend, who I learned also has a massive crush on her. He's been my best bud since I was 4 years old and I consider him family. Through general hangouts I got to talking with her, we hit it off unlike any other girl I'd met. I know at the time she reciprocated feelings for me. Intense as mine for her? I'm not sure, but she did, which makes it suck worse for me. I don't think I've fallen for anyone as hard as I did for her, even three years later the feeling hasn't recurred. I wanted so badly to be with her, to do anything I could to make her happy. We were all out one night and I think my friend may of noticed her interest in me. He ended up getting really drunk. REALLY drunk. A horrible weeping drunk. It was that night I found out he had been suffering from depression for a few years. Maybe the alcohol mixing with the medication is what made him go off the rails that night as well, but seeing him like that.. Professing his adoration for her (she was gone by this point) and how she would never want him. That felt liked someone reached into my chest, gripped my heart, and started twisting and pulling. Here is my friend, my brother, in the most emotional pain I had ever seen him in. The look on his face is something I NEVER want to see again. And I felt I was the cause of that, as she made it clear to me she was interested in me and I spent a good portion of the night talking to her as well. Without intention I inflicted that pain on him. And it's something I would never dream of doing consciously to someone that important to me. I had to basically make a decision to pursue this girl of my dreams, or stand by my friend, and I chose to stand by him. 3 years later and I know I made the right choice, but fuck it hurts sometimes thinking what could of happened between her and I. I've never told him of the conversations/flirting between her and I because he is the kind of guy who would give you the shirt off his back in -50 temperatures and I know he would tell me to go for it, but I refuse to inflict that pain on him again. Not sure if it really follows the theme of the thread, but I couldn't approach her in a serious attempt at starting something, and it still sucks being lonely thinking about the "what if's"

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