There is never enough sex for my spouse, and im tired of dealing with his backlash for not receiving it

Getting angry when you don’t get sex and basically forcing your partner into having sex with you to keep the peace is coercion. You aren’t consenting to this sex, you’re doing it because you feel like you don’t have a choice.

You need to tell him this and then you need to look up ‘coerced consent’ together. If he doesn’t feel sick with himself and change his behaviour immediately then you need to pack your bags.

People with higher sex drives than their partners can masturbate in the shower ffs. He has no right to expect you to take care of every urge. That is NOT what marriage is about.

The whole ‘being loving after sex’ thing is also another sign of abuse btw. It is extraordinarily controlling as he’s attempting to make it so you’ll have sex so that ‘he doesn’t get angry and he’s loving towards me instead’

Good luck, I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

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