There is no law that says you have to love your family

I love my family but they can be extremely toxic and as much as I miss them, I realized I miss the idea of who they used to be when I was a child. My mom has become this backstabbing toxic individual who complains about everyone and everything. My image of her growing up was different. She was sweet and caring and while she has moments where she acts normal, her toxic behavior always comes out. For example, I flew out to take care of her as she had an accident. I’ve been here for two weeks running errands, cooking and trying to help. I overheard her talking shit about me on the phone to her sister.l, complaining about me.

Every time I visit them, I am reminded as to why I moved away at a young age. It’s very painful because this isn’t a family that values conversations about how we feel. Everyone hides behinds their jokes. Mental health issues are taboo and there is this overall immaturity when dealing with serious topics. God forbid I speak my mind. No one can take accountability for how they treat others.

I want a happy stable relationship with my immediate family but years of these toxic behaviors is making that difficult. My flight is tomorrow and as much as I love my family I cannot wait to go home.

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