is there a point of having friends in adulthood?

looking back, i had one good friend in my early 20s. we got to experience our young adulthood together. we had a blast. but now in my 30s, everything is different. everyone is out for themselves, everyone is all grown up and their personality changed. and it's the same way for me, i just dont' care too much about going to the bars or whatever.

i feel lonely and do want connection. im just trying to figure out if there's any value left for me to have friendships. i feel like nobody has friends 30's and older, ppl have co-workers and partners but i just don't see ppl hanging out anymore. if they do, it's mostly friends from childhood. i just don't feel connected by doing things together, i dont know if i have autism or not but i like to keep things to myself, i like to think and stay by myself. i get stressed out when i have to entertain my guests.

if you stop looking for friends, you are sure not to find any good ones.

i do all the time but it's hard. honestly its impossible to make friends when ur 30's and older. i have hobbies but ppl are already in groups and nobody wants a stranger to tag along. you can't talk to strangers anymore and i'm a quiet guy myself. so everything feels just impossible, i feel like ppl use me, take advantage of me and don't even appreciate what i have to offer. im super laid back, never ask for anything, but no one likes me. i rather be alone than be taken advantage of.

it wasn't always like this, i had friends all throughout my life. i started to isolate myself few yrs ago and i just drifted apart from everyone and society. i can't relate or connect with anybody anymore

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