There’s no such thing as a “bad texter”. If they’re not responsive, they’re not interested.

No worries. Just continue to stay true to yourself. Your time is yours to give. Although, it’s also important to be aware of our feelings, to ensure it isn’t a product of anxiety (avoidance). That can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, of sorts. That’s initially why I responded… most of us have ignored texts, from time to time.

What I’ve learned and observed is: Some people are clingy and unable to process (perceived) rejection (ghosting), while others will respect your boundaries. So we have to really know who we’re talking to… Ultimately, rejection is something we all have to deal with. So, we’re not doing anyone any favours by lying to ourselves.

It sounds like you mostly just like having time to recharge. That’s fine. There’s no reason to feel needlessly trapped in what should be easy (friendship, etc). But maybe, you could work on boundaries? I used to have anxiety about similar things. It gets a lot easier, trust me. Also, your English is very good.

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