Is there someone who keeps coming back into your life (in either a platonic or romantic​ sense) but due to extenuating circumstances, your friendship/relationship with them doesn't work out? What is your story?

Probably a bit late to this but it will do me good to vent...

I went to primary school with this girl and have known her for most of my life, and have thus grown up with her. In highschool I started to develop feelings for her but it never really amounted to anything, although she was fully aware that I fancied her and she sorta fancied me but again it never went further than that... The further we got through highschool we would get more and more flirty, but I let my best friend pursue her more (although they never dated) as at the time I had started dating a girl. After highschool came university (or in my case college) where we would rarely see each other but when we did we we're always super close but we both had relationships. During these times though she would always be either hot or cold with me and I could never figure her out, one day it was like she really wanted me to love her and go after her, the next she would give me the cold shoulder ( which she continues to do to this day )... More recently at a friend's engagement party whilst drunk she admitted to me that two years back she really wanted to sleep with me, but this has never been mentioned since.. she's a person that I love to be around, and I honestly try to spend more time with her, although I have a girlfriend and wouldn't have the ability to ever cheat on my girl friend because I love her... But sometimes I wonder what might have been.

More recently I talked with some friends about it all (including the friend who pursued her years back.) And there was no definitive answer to what to do.. the girl I am currently dating I wouldn't trade for the world, but it's undeniable for me that there was something there with this girl that I feel so close with and have so much history with... I guess she can just be chalked up to the one that got away.

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