Is there a word for someone who wants to be served but who isn't "dominant?"

I identify as a Top/Sadist/Rigger and occasionally Primal or Daddy. When I came into the scene - Master or Dominant were the community accepted terms for my role where I like being the one who does stuff to someone. But Master felt super creepy - I went to a catholic school where "Sir" was a term of thinly veiled contempt and Dominance just isn't actually my kink.

I'm not looking for obediance or someone who's going to just submissively do what I say 99.99% of my play. I'm looking for collaboration and complimentary kinks. I like hurting people who enjoy being hurt. I need a lot of communication and collaboration from the people I tie for circus bondage nonsense to be safe. I like resistance and struggle, or enthusiastic and active participation a lot more than compliance or obedience if we're talking about stuff in the bedroom.

Advertising yourself is always going to be complicated. Simple labels are easier - but the reality of most people in my experience is that what they are, and what they're looking for is complicated.

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