There's a lot of delusion

I think it's worth pointing out some of us are content with being not fully passable.

I've been in transition four years and seven months, and while passing fully is a dream in 10 + years, it's not something i am aiming for now.

I aim for baseline blending in and expressing myself through my clothes and hobbies.

I have a very distinct Disney style, wear minimal make-up, and have unstylish hair in colored scrunchies.

I could "try" more, change my entire look and wear lots of good make-up, but that would mean i would be pretending to be someone i am not... I transitioned to be me, not to be someone else.

I know i am an outlier here, but, i would rather be not fully passable, and myself, than 100% passable and change everything about myself.

So i think when you see a trans woman who looks off, so to speak, it's possibly because she is not upset or depressed about her look... It's possible she is just being who she wants to be; even if it's unconventional.

Obviously there are exceptions to this, and, obviously passing is important to most trans people and is an admirable goal that i support for those that can... But it's not a goal we all 100% share, and i think that's okay.

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