I generally (at least for the most part, not always) refrain from using this sub as a sounding board to criticize my spouse. But I certainly don't blame anyone who wants to or needs to.

You don't get to decide what people want or need to talk about here. For a lot of us it is our only outlet, and you can stay away if you don't like it (which judging by your history, you don't, so you really should just stay away).

I'm not really sure what you're trying to accomplish by this post, but you're completely off the mark if you think all spouses are innocent victims of some type, you don't get to tell people to just "get a divorce" and people haven't "given up their right" to do anything here. You know fuck all about what goes on in people's marriages, homes and bedrooms.