I didn’t know what passive aggressive meant, my spouse is text book. Wish I’d heard the term around year 5 and not 25. Whenever we are in a stressful situation, it’s suddenly all my fault. If there is a decision to be made, he purposely drags his heels. He can’t decide on a parking space. He can’t pay a phone bill on time. When dealing with a difficult person such as a teenager or his elderly mother, he lectures me on how I’m dealing with them and discounts his role as father or son. The worst was how he dragged his feet making Home repairs, replacing a broken item and letting us suffer. After 3 decades I can spot the situations ahead of time, he knows he’d be lost without me. Our kids are grown, I know all the passwords to our bank and utilities accounts, I’m better at computer stuff and finding interesting stuff for us to do or the best people to help in a crisis. I am not afraid to go off on him in public. I wouldn’t say we are stronger, we’ve just made peace.