My husband and I have made 2 cross-country moves for his career (one in which I left my entire social circle and family where I'd lived till I was 25 - that was the hardest thing I've done thus far in my life; the second time was much easier). That being said, I think that social media and texting are amazing because I'm so close with some of my friends from my hometown and California (where we lived for 6 years when my husband was in grad school). We've lived in our new town in Texas for 4 years now, and I have great friends here too! I'm going back to my hometown city next weekend to see my BFF's new baby and other friends and family. It was so hard at first, but now I feel grateful to have loved ones all over the country!

My husband and I have been together much less time than you and your spouse (11 years), but I have learned too that you shouldn't keep a scorecard. That being said, the moves for his schooling and career are the hardest things I've ever done. He doesn't see it that way for himself, but I get attached to places and I also work in the community as a part of my career, which makes it tougher to leave.