To those who have had their hearts broken in an affair: What happened, and how has the experienced changed you (if at all)?

My first two real relationships both ended as a result of cheating.

In the first relationship, I was hanging out with a group of friends and we got stoned. I fell asleep and woke up in an empty room. My SO was in another room “talking” to a friend of mine. They had just met. Destroyed my sense of security. Showed me that I had been picking the wrong friends.

Second relationship was always rocky. Idek what we were doing. She cheated on me a number of times. I loved her, and I was young, so I took her back. This happened back and forth until she slept with my neighbor in my bed.

I’ve decided to choose my partners better and actively have to resist being a distrustful and selfish person. No judgement to this sub, which actually helps me. You all have your reasons for what you do.

My reasons would not be those same reasons. If I did decide to get an AP it would be because I wanted to be vindictive and self-destructive.

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