I have had a very long term AP who developed ED (it was a gradual decline). Off and on I would have one other AP to fill in the gaps though for many of those years I was exclusive to the ED guy.

Anyway this year I said, no holds barred. I'm doing what I want.

I tried being honest with the pAPs at first but quickly learned guys don't like to hear you're with other guys, even if they claim not to be possessive.

So I went into each pAP as though it could potentially be an exclusive arrangement, which ultimately is what I'd prefer. But I also knew due to them flaking out, guilt kinging, changing dynamics (some guys start out strong them dissolve), or me not liking them it could well be a self determined process.

So yes right now I have 2-4ish guys I see regularly. Scheduling is a headache especially since one of these guys I think is missing part of his brain and isn't seem capable of planning anything more than a few hours in advance. I sometimes feel guilty between the guys sometimes I don't. But like i said ideally I would like this to evolve into just one guy, maybe two at the most.

Just be careful, try to get them to use condoms etc..