This sub's community is usually friendly, but people can still be judgemental little shitballs here. I've seen it over an over, especially with people who are completely new to the whole world of gays on the internet. I mean, just look at your own words:

I assume whatever you said in your question or description wasn't worded properly or you were intentionally being uncool.

You left no room to critique your own community. Why should bad wording mean result in cruelty on our part? And why should you assume someone was intentionally being uncool rather than just being ignorant?

Dicks exist everywhere, even in a lesbian community. We are not immune.