i have a few questions:

• how old are you?

• how long ago did they die?

• how old is your dad?

• before all of this, how were you doing academically?

1 your dad is probably (temporarily?) a bit insane he's dealing with it in his own way, and he can't take care of you. time to grow up now. you have a lot more say about what goes on around the house. if you don't want to see your dog's old stuff, put it away or throw it away. eventually you'll move out.

2 probably best to keep playing song and dance until you can get out of high school sounds like you're in high school. i think it's worth trying to tell them you're feeling better and don't need to meet with them as much. if you make a big deal about how you don't like the meetings they could take that as a signal that you need more controlling. he's not processing it properly, i'm worried about him. the overal strategy is to minimize the control they have over your life. do what you need to do to make them go away.

3 practical and financial issues you can't rely on your dad to get shit done, you're going to have to do it yourself. there are a number of things you need to do, and things that could help you out, when someone dies. other peolpe have said it better elsewhere.

4 exit strategy you don't have to know every detail now, but you need to start making a strategy for the rest of your life. i'd suggest setting yourself up to start a career in the highest paying field you think you can do. the idea is you'll go to college, study your ass off, and also become friends with a lot of peolpe, so you can get a job that gives you enough time off and free cash flow (live below your means) to do the things you really want to do.