Thursday Daily Chat Thread

Things were not going well since mid June. We were living with her parents, She and her parents had a fight over some spilled water on the wooden floor. I wasn’t involved at all in the arguments but things escalated and became violent between my wife’s step mother and her father. She didn’t want to report this to the police. We couldn’t do anything because she didn’t want to press charges. After that I wanted to move out of that house, because it was not safe at all in my opinion. I was afraid since my wife and her father are also fighting frequently after that. She agreed with me and I took time off work to find a house and for getting a truck etc in a week. I was able to find a sublet until the end of August. She had to transfer stores. We had to give our puppy to her ex girlfriend since pets were not allowed in the new place. We moved out and lived there. Things were okay for a while. She started having ptsd symptoms from childhood trauma coming up and she enrolled in group therapy. I think it helps her and I think it is a good decision. I was never comfortable in the new apartment since I knew it was temporary and I was nervous that we’ll be homeless in September and I was looking for housing all the time. Fortunately we found another place which is a little expensive and we moved in. I had to take time off from work again for moving out. She had this new coworker in the new store who kind of tricked us by saying that he doesn’t have any place to live in September. Later we learned that he is a little creep and everyone avoids him. Probably that’s why he didn’t have any place to live in. I didn’t know him at all but he seemed nice and we let him live in the separate bedroom for a good price. One week in from a coworker we found out he posted some stupid snap on snapchat about my wife walking in on him while he is masturbating, which is a lie. I was so enraged and we had a screaming match with him while he was trying to defend this action and eventually he moved out. Our puppy was no longer welcomed in my wife’s ex’s house. I love our puppy so much so I took her in. But She has severe separation anxiety and can’t be alone in the house for long periods of time. She will run away, bark forever and rip the floors. So I spend about $1000 to buy training equipment and pay pet deposit. I also registered her as ESA so I can take her to work sometimes. I am not sure how my boss sees this situation. We also use rover app sometimes to find a dog sitter. We schedule our work so that someone’s at the house with her. All of these together accumulated and I was stressed beyond imagination. I was worried about our finances, safety, taking care of our dog, trying to catch up with my work and the aftershock of all this drama. We had an argument where I was complaining and I kind of said that I can’t handle this much trouble anymore. I was being passive aggressive and childish all day. I don’t know what I was trying to achieve it was all emotional. We had the fight and now we are done. I am very lonely since my parents are overseas and not approving of this relationship (Middle East). My coworkers are from China or India so I am not out to all of them. My close friends are also overseas. I couldn’t talk to anyone about any of this drama. That’s why I wanted to post here. I don’t want to breakup but I am also heartbroken because she didn’t understand how much stress I am in and didn’t accept my apology. That’s all. Thanks for reading.

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