TIfU by falling in love with my roommate

Her making reference her single status up on Facebook could well have been a hint to you (my partner confirmed!). My instincts tell me she’s into you, too, or she thinks she might be. I’ve lived with women and they are usually very particular about who they spend their leisure time with. If it’s not the guy they’re seeing, or their fam, it’s their girlfriends. I was quite close to one or two of my female housemates but we always had compartmentalised lives, interests, rhythms, etc. Might be your situation is different because of the lockdown, but it doesn’t seem like she’s doing this stuff out of obligation or boredom. It sounds like she genuinely enjoys your company.

Time is your friend, mate. As everyone says, after the lockdown is the time to let her know. I would recommend at that point keeping it subtle, like telling her how much you enjoy her company and how you feel comfortable around her. It’s important to let her know there’s something different there, but not imply that it’s the be all and end all for you. It may help confirm her beliefs, too, and might make her feel a bit more secure and confident enough to have a crack.

If she should go back to seeing this guy or someone else when the lockdown lifts, don’t be disheartened. I suspect she’ll probably find herself missing you and your cool little routines, and the old guy or new guy won’t cut it. It’s important to just maintaining your awesome self and she should come to see how rare that is. She may well make her own move at that point. Be attentive! Good luck.

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