there seems to be a fundamental misunderstanding of what having control over your emotions means. When did a control over your mind and emotions - to the point that you are not led by every emotional whim that you have, that every desire to cry, or be angry, or be depressed, or to lash out, and so on - is not immediately acted upon because you were not taught fundamental self control.

You consider yourself part sociopath? Your self-diagnosis is unfounded and is likely wrong.

Mastering your mind, your emotions, and your flesh - as the Daoists would say "giving the monkey a peach" because they believed the mind and emotion to be very much like an unruly monkey, so you must learn to give it a peach in order to allow it to occupy itself, which is the task of mastering your life by your own hand.

Men are the cliffs upon which the waves of the world crash - when our wives and our children are run by their emotions, men are the anchors - the strong, unmoving pillars upon which those in less control over their emotions can crash upon and subside.

The big problem with our world is that extremes that people jump to.

Tell someone, "Hey, maybe you should demonstrate leadership by not breaking down in tears as easily as a 4 year old child - effectively teaching him to just cry whenever the fuck he feels like it when confronted with the raw realities of life" and suddenly you're a sociopath.

Who doesn't have an understanding of emotion here? The people who seem incapable of understanding the art of mindfulness and self control and one's role as a male leader and head of the family?

The ones who seem incapable of understanding the idea of mastering emotions, to where you feel them, recognize them, and validate them, but do not allow them to control you?

Or the one who does understand that?

Any old fool can break down in tears every time they feel moved to do so. Women and children do that. Are we now supposed to say men should do it too?

People call that emotional intelligence, but there is nothing intelligent about someone losing their shit - whether they cry out of sentiment whenever they feel moved to do so or punch someone in the face whenever they feel moved to do so, both are examples of a complete inability to master one's emotional state.