TIFU by telling my wife I support the option of abortion for our possible 3rd child.

Even if there isn’t a devious plot she came up with to intentionally get pregnant, it’s still absurd that a woman (whether she’s a one night stand or a wife) can put someone in an situation where the only options are stay and pay, or leave and pay. It creates a system that destroys people mentally and financially, and almost always leads to resentment and turmoil between everyone associated. If a man gets taken advantage of by a woman, he’s out 20% of everything he makes for the next 18 years and that’s the best case scenario assuming she doesn’t cause any more drama or legal problems. It’s so disheartening that people only see problems as an either/or. We can advocate for protecting women’s problems and men’s at the same time, not just “screw men, women are raped and abused all the time so be a real man and pay up”. As a society we always tend to overcorrect problems to feed the bloodlust of those who were wronged, which ends up creating a new set of problems.

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