TIL that according to a study, strict parents can turn their kids into more effective liars because children who are afraid to tell the truth learn more deceptive behaviors to avoid getting in trouble.

12 years passed since my dad had some really angry mood swings and was taking it all out to my big brother, literally trying to kill him by choking him, I was like 10 then so I don't remember a lot, but I remember it had happened many times. The weirdest part of all is that no one seems to discuss it, we all act like it never happened. And my big brother is doing just fine with my father now. But you can see the cracks and weird things in family conversations and/or when we eat together. What's more weird is that weird state of "do i love my family? do I care about them?" because there are so many mood swings that your reality start to kinda fade and you're not sure what to believe, or what you feel either. Also, being the youngest child with a very strong personality (almost ADHD),they never believed me and always treated me as a person who can not be responsible for even the smallest things. Even now my dad does not trust me to get a job done.

As a result now I have trouble believing in myself, I am afraid to take responsibility and even when I don't lie to people It looks like I do when I tell a far-fetched story that is actual true. Being in any way aggressive is seen as bad to me, but lately i've started understanding why that might not be the case. I am recovering from it though, I am 22 so for the past years I decided that the only person that needs to believe in me is myself, and I never ever ever lie, that way I know I am true, and the feeling of lie goes away.

/r/todayilearned Thread Parent Link - independent.co.uk