My ex wife never accused me of rape but she did on multiple occasions decide that calling the police and telling them that Id hurt her was the best way to win an argument. She did it when she got insanely drunk and the first, 3 I think, times she did it the police got a good handle on the situation and knew what she was doing. The first time scared me to death when she started threatening it so I called the police myself, they offered to take her to jail for the night but i said no she'll calm down. She did not. The police came one more time because a neighbor called because she was being so loud and another time because she called them. I think she forgot shed called because when they showed up she was standing, at the window, stabbing my work pants with a butcher knife - nothing i could do or say to keep her out of jail at that point. The second and third time she did it her story was ridiculous and obviously not true and they left. The last time and when I finally got the balls to leave (not immediately but it set it all in motion) she freaked out after shed come home drunk and angry while I was asleep. She was yelling and slapping me, so I moved to the couch and tried to go back to sleep. She poured a monster energy drink on my head while slapping me so I moved back to the bed. She started hitting me again. I got up and tried to figure out what the fuck her deal was and she started going through my phone convinced I was cheating on her after about 30 minutes of that shit I took my phone from her saying im out, this is stupid, and im done. She calls the police. I went to jail for two days because that's the minimum for a domestic violence charge where I live. The cops were fucking idiots. Taking my phone away, not wrestled away just snatching it from her hand, is considered assault and a class a misdemeanor. It cost me about 2 grand total to fight it, had to do and pay for anger management courses and eventually I got clear of it.

If you were to ask me why in the hell I stayed it would sound exactly like the reasons actual abuse victims sound. She was drunk, she didnt mean it. Really she's a good person. She knows it was wrong and she won't do it again. Its bullshit.

She'll say she's sorry but if you press her on it she feels justified. Shell never really admit anything she did was actually wrong.

Im not a mensrights dude, I think the red pill is stupid shit. I know for a fact though this shit happens. Ive lived it. I know how it feels to say "i didnt hurt her", how the simple act of denying it makes you feel guilty of something. I know that never one time did I lay so much as a finger on her in anger yet just saying that makes you seem guilty. Its a fucking horrible feeling and I have no doubt that im not alone.

I really wish there was a way to prevent another person from having to go through that.