Most of them were not bad men, all things considered, but they were rapists. I bet some of them don't even think that they did anything wrong. That's why consent is so important and so simple. All they have to do is ask if a person wants to have sex, get a yes and they have to use a condom unless there is a verbal agreement to not use one. It's so simple but so many men simply don't want to ask for consent, likely for fear of being told no. It's disgusting because their behavior destroys lives.

All of this happened a while ago and I don't "date" anymore. I do sometimes use the more innocent dating sites to meet both male and female platonic friends though. So I still have to be cautious.