did you go through a stage of "oh god why did I think this was a good idea???
I STILL go through that from time to time. I know it's easy to say what I said, but executing it is far from easy. I don't know how old you are but I'm in my late 30s now. I guess it clicked for me around 30? So think about that. My life, my persona, my attitude, my way of life was fake. I was acting for 30 years.... You do anything for 30 years it's really hard to break that habit.
I do think think a few things that help you is find your biggest advocates and stick with them. If it's family, great. If it's friends, great. Our life is about quality over quantity. So surround yourself with good people and leave everyone else in the dust.
The next thing that really helped me was just outting myself as an Aspie. It was scary as hell. But remember, at this point you're surrounded by the other people who accepted you for weirdness without even understand it. So once they actually understand it, they start to understand why you are the way you are. For example, after ten years of marriage, my wife finally understood why I hated social situations or hated visiting her family. She never understood what was going on in my brain and how difficult it was. She started to understand why I would wake up and suddenly have a new special interest. She embraced me for the way I was, not the way she wanted me to be.
Do you get better at "responsibly" being yourself when you get into your 30s?
This is absolutely my favorite line of all the replies in this thread because you nailed something I didn't even touch on. A few repliers have said "If I'm the real me, I'm going to call everyone an asshole!" Well yea, being yourself isn't a ticket to being a butthole. Even NT's have to fake it sometimes. So I'm not saying go full I don't give a f' mode. More-so just saying be true to yourself when you can, and limit your acting when you need to.
I hope this was helpful. I'm absolutely not a medical expert. Just a guy who struggled so long like many in here and after so many years is starting to find his way in this crazy adventure.