Tired of going to sleep alone every night while my husband stays up doing whatever

Wow. That is a difficult situation. I have no kids, but my first thought was that maybe he needs more alone time.

I'm not trying to defend his behaviour, I can see where you anger comes from. But it seems to me, he uses the night hours to be alone for a while, probably because that is the only time of day, he can be?

I would ask him directly if he needs more time for himself and then maybe work something out.

I wanted to write something about sexual incentives here, but after reading your post again

Not sex or really anything other than pure exhaustion from work will bring him to bed when I go.

When we have sex he leaves me alone in the bed to get back up and go do what he wants to do.

he's going to the party once I go to bed.

Could he have an affair? Or slightly less worse, he's just not that into you while you're pregnant? How was it with your first pregnancy?

Have you tried offering blowjobs or handjobs, just stuff where he doesn't have to do any work? Does that change his willingness to come to bed? If yes, it could be an indication.

Does he have any close male friends that you trust and could talk to?

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