Today I called my 6 month old daughter a bitch

There’s no excuse for calling your daughter a bitch, or anyone a bitch really.

That being said, I can honestly feel your remorse and regret through your words. It happens and it’s awful and parenting can be absolute shit sometimes, too. You’re in the thick of it and the adjustment is hell. A lot of people, especially first time parents, both mom and dad, struggle to survive and make it through this period without falling and fumbling and hating ourselves.

You’re struggling to adapt and adjust. You miss the way it once was and are mourning the loss of freedom. I think most of us know that feeling - that sense of loss. We miss who we were, we miss the time and energy we had, the sleep we took for granted, coming and going as we please etc.

The good news is… it will pass. It will. With time. The first year or two is rough. It just is. Sometimes you get a super easy baby/kid and a lot of times you don’t lol.

Don’t resist. Seriously. Just surrender to the process. And know it won’t always be like this. I’ve talked to dads who had kids and thought they’d made the biggest mistake of their lives and were beyond depressed as a result. And then, baby is a toddler, and they’re having the time of their lives and some even wanted a second, third etc.

I have two. It’s not easy. It’s not meant to be easy - these are tiny humans who need us for every single thing. We’re on nearly 24/7. It’s exhausting in every sense of the word.

Hang in there. It gets better. This will pass. It will.

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