OP said:

I went down the path of trying to prove everything I was hearing was wrong. But I found the opposite to be true.

It's been I think three years for me since I did what OP describes. I never thought I'd "prove everything" because that's "not how God works", but I knew that I'd be able to falsify many twisted half-truths, demonstrate logical leaps and errors, and (this is true lol) I honestly expected I'd be able to expose the fallacious motivated reasoning behind anti-Mormonism. In my defense, I was deeply familiar with evangelical Christian anti-Mormonism, which was mostly lies, fallacy and motivated reasoning. But the point is that our expectations are set by experience and you only know what you know. On the upside, having to constantly forgive myself of my own ignorance has made me more forgiving of the ignorance of others.

And that's the reason your advice is fucked up. It suggests OP should fail to learn one of the most important lessons to be learned from coming face to face with our own deeply held dogmas: you yourself are as guilty of ignorance and bias as anyone else. OP's wife only knows what she knows. She's guilty as charged. But so was OP. So is OP. So are you and so am I.

He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone. Ignorance is a universal condition. If you're not willing to at least make a valiant effort for YOUR WIFE, who are you willing to work for? Anyone? It sounds like you might be the fickle one, friend. The enemy is not religion. It's ignorance and dogma, and first and foremost, the ignorance and dogma in ourselves.

Im not married and i might have too high of ideals.

If you ever want to find someone that considers you worth the trouble of working through hard times, you might want to try "being the friend you wish you had" first.