It would unfortunately require addressing the issue, which I don’t think either of us want to do. Oh god you can probably apply the ‘if you aren’t mature enough to talk about sex you aren’t mature enough to do it’ phrase to making children too, huh? You are probably right about pressure, I’ve thought that before, which is usually why I just go along and end up giving him a blow job or a hand job, because I want him to know that even if we can’t make a baby right this second I still love and appreciate him. That said, tonight it just got the best of me, the third month in a row, we’re just not going to be able to have children this way.

I feel like we both like to pretend our sex life is more ‘normal’ than it is, to others and ourselves, I’m pretty sure we’re both happy with how little we have sex, he doesn’t complain about it, but society heaps on so much pressure, how important it is to a relationship, how if you aren’t having sex your relationship is doomed, that to bite the bullet and address the fact it might be easier to just forgo sex and use a turkey baster basically feels like giving up on my marriage.

... as for how I referred to male orgasm, it was only because there are so many euphemisms used here I’m not really sure what words I can use!

Thank you so much for your reply, really made me feel better just to know somewhere read what I wrote, maybe I can even sleep now!