NMom always stole birthday and Christmas money. Before there were money troubles, she only took half of what we were sent. After my NDad lost his job and they both refused to work and lived off of a small amount NGrandmother sent them, they took everything. All birthday and holiday money was theirs--GCSiblings would still get to keep theirs and get gifts, but I was always screwed and "greedy" for pointing it out. When I graduated high school she forged my signature on graduation checks and stole $2K from me---I was paying for college completely by myself and desperately needed the money. I had to get a job to pay for incidentals/my payment plan for room/board and NMom demanded my entire paycheck and told me it was my "duty to support the family"--there were 3 adults in that house that refused to work, but 17-year-old me was supposed to support all of them and pay for school? I visited one weekend and she copied my credit card info and had my billing address changed to her address and maxed it out in 2 months--almost $2K. I had to take a second and third job to make payments on that and still keep paying for school and NMom demanded that money. She constantly demanded my student loan refund checks, even when I was in an apartment I couldn't afford without my refund check. I had to live at home for graduate school because I couldn't afford an apartment and she asked to borrow $3k (my refund check) and she'd pay my bills every month until the money was paid back---she didn't pay on any of my bills and screwed my credit for years. I quit grad school and moved out of state w/ my SO because I knew she'd ruin me. She left me alone for the most part after that, but when my SO and I got married and were looking to buy a house, she demanded I open a new credit card account, remove the entire balance in a cash advance, give her half, and then declare bankruptcy. I told her she'd almost destroyed me financially but I'd be damned if I'd let her ruin my husband and I told her to never bring up money to me again. It would have been nice to have a mother that wasn't so predatory :/