It’s really not that hard to understand, I dont want him to be my boyfriend because I prefer him as a best mate. I had sex with him because we both wanted to, i went on a date with him so find out if I wanted this to be more. I dont see how HIS emotions are MY problem? Those ‘nice guys’ find a way to blame everything on women and are somehow never at fault. He is a grown man, if he wants to not have sex with me - he doesn’t have to. The sex is fun and I’ve told him my boundaries. He has chosen to respect them, if he feels otherwise - he can terminate the sexual part of our relationship. I am not to blame for his emotions - that’s completely INSANE.