"If a woman does the same thing, it's still toxic masculinity"

What?? So is a false rape charge from a woman against a man still considered toxic masculinity? How about child support payments or custody battles? Men have very little rights in these situations, which is what I mean by toxic femininity. There are assholes on both sides, women absolutely have control over men in some circumstances and there are women who are more than willing to use that to their advantage.

If blame doesn't matter and you're truly interested in only recognizing toxic behaviours and making efforts to be better, then you should be willing to acknowledge that these behaviours are seen in both masculine and feminine situations and sometimes they have nothing to do with patriarchy. People in power naturally will abuse that power, that's just how humans work