Please guys. Don't further emotionally abuse me, I'm not in a good mindset, I come here for support and to find people like me, not to be emotionally abused even if it isn't intentional. You don't live with my family nor do you know them I doubt, but I do. It took me decades to get to a point where I can admit she intentionally abuses me. She has conditional love, doesn't care about my life, no empathy for me.
I didn't come on these support sites just to be invalidated and accused of being wrong about my own abuse experiences. I hear it enough from people and other abusers in my past, I can't take it please leave me be everyone... just be nice or don't say anything at all.