it’s perfectly fine that you want to find a compatible person. no one has an issue with that. but the question you’re asking these women is “have you been with a dude with a bigger dick than mine?” and then you are ASSUMING that if the answer is yes, then the woman must love big dicks. what we are all trying to tell you is that that is not true. women can be fucked by big dicks and realize that it’s painful or not worth it if they have to prep/stretch a lot

the question you should ask women if you really care so much about this is: “do you have a preference for dick size?” and if she says yes, then you can ask what that size is or let her know your average-sized and go from there

it’s still a strange question and i can’t promise you that whatever woman you’re interested in will respond well to it, but it’s a better, healthier approach than comparing yourself to her past lovers. what you’re doing now is creating this competition in your head by focusing on the sizes of other men. imagine if i left my house to get groceries and the entire time, i asked myself: “is that person a better cook than me? is he? is she? what about them, i bet they’re a worse cook.” it is exhausting constantly competing with others. it’s unhealthy

focusing on your girlfriend’s preferences by asking “what do you like?” and then LISTENING TO THE WORDS THAT COME OUT OF HER MOUTH is a much better indicator of how compatible she is with you. she would not want to stay with you if she didn’t like you (every part of you)