Tried to f*ck me while asleep.

You can absolutely forgive him, while still setting up firm boundaries. He violated those, and broke an immense amount of trust. The only way that can be fixed is if he’s willing (and you are, as well) to put in a whole lot of work. Even then, time may prove that there is no coming back from this for you two. If he is remorseful, able to acknowledge his faults, and genuinely puts effort into healing the relationship, I don’t think you’d be a fool to want to try. That being said, if he fights you at all for this, he absolutely is not somebody you should be staying with. He may be a sweet boy, but do not let him guilt you into ignoring your gut feelings, ignoring your emotional needs. You NEED trust in a relationship.

If you do end up trying to salvage this relationship, sit down with yourself and write down a list of the things you need to move forward. No more physical touch? More limited time together? Less time alone with each other? Whatever it is, you decide, and ONLY YOU decide when it’s time to change/relax those boundaries. He does not get to choose when you feel comfortable again, do not let him guilt you into rushing into another stage. He broke trust, he doesn’t get to decide how quickly this violation takes to heal.

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