Sorry. Couldn't read the entire post. I couldn't get past the gray area of sexual abuse. Which by the way, is a horrific example to use as an example of anything. I was severely, violently and horrifically abused by four men spanning from age four to age 22. The one who first raped me was also raped when he was a child. In that sense we are both victims. What changes is that he then chose to rape me. He chose to violate, murder and vaporize my soul and permanently injure my body by raping me for four years. I choose to be a survivor. Not a rapist. There's a very firm line in making that decision. To even slightly infer that victims of childhood rape should get some amount of leeway in raping others because they were raped is triggering and in no way remotely similar to having FLEAS or tendencies because of growing up in a narc household. I choose to not rape. I also choose to not live my life as a narc or parent like a narc because I was also blessed with that along with four rapists. I am quite upset writing this. Many on here have been raped as children and adults and the first paragraph blows me away. Please, it's a poor example to compare anything to rape. Especially victims who grow up and CHOOSE to rape others.