[TRIGGER WARNING INSIDE] Trying to Save a girl I love has cost me my GPA, but more importantly my sanity.

Friend. I've been a VERY (eerily) similar boat as you.

The heartbreak and torture of this is something I wish upon no one. The fact that you wanna protect her and help her is a great thing and something I wish more people would go out of their way to do.

But, and I can't stress this at least after what I went through. A relationship is a 2 way road. Currently, you're hoping your dividends pay off in the future when you're together from all the support you're putting in, and who knows, to each their own, maybe it will. But I don't want you being blinded like me with love of this person bringing harm upon yourself. You deserve the best person to spend your life with, as does everyone and this person isn't giving you that.

For my friend, within a little over a one year time period I've been with her through countless panic attacks, 2 suicide attempts I've had to talk her out of and one overnight stay in the ER with her that I still never told my parents(that's a different story I'm not going to go down now). I would do anything for her to protect and keep her safe.

As of 3 weeks ago, the day after my last final at CC, she told me she is leaving CA to move to Florida to be with some other guy she met online and has been seeing behind my back.

I'm still dealing with the shock of this. Someone I dedicated a large part of my life to help and with just one sentence she told me, I feel used and taken advantage of.

Everyone is different. You can continue helping this person if you want, but it will bring more harm, especially bringing her to live with you and that financial burden. You need to understand to take care of yourself first. Especially in this important stage of your life.

Take care of yourself first and if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to toss me a pm and hopefully you have a great summer ahead.

/r/CalPolyPomona Thread Parent