i’ve been on the receiving end of this. i think it’s understandable that at the beginning he was as supportive as possible. i was the same way. i really cared about the person, so i wanted to ALWAYS be open to listen no matter where i was and what i was doing.

but eventually it begins to become draining. it’s hard to ALWAYS be there for someone, not feeling like you have a break no matter how busy you are. it takes away from your own mental health. you get tired of having that one extra thing to worry about at all times.

it sounds shitty. but it’s possible that he was drained and felt as if you didn’t respect his time being with his friends. and it’s hard from both ends. i understand you can’t just turn off the abuse from your family and the feeling it elicits. but you can find other outlets because sometimes it is important to respect your partners time.

this doesn’t excuse the comment he made, but maybe it can help you understand where he’s coming from. i think you definitely need to communicate with him and ask him why he reacted the way he did. and of course i don’t know your situation, so i might be going off of some assumptions. but this is how i felt personally at least

best of luck