I have a guy friend that I made through a mutual friend. He and I have hit it off and hang out 4-5 times a week. We have hooked up a quite a few times and it has been great!

The thing is, we (he is 29, I am 27) both recently (both within the last 4-5 months) ended serious relationships (we were both engaged to other people) and we both went into this wanting nothing other than a friend and sex. That took a lovely turn when I started getting feelings for him. I told him about the feelings so we cut off the hooking up part of our friendship.

Then he started insisting he bring me on solo "friend dates," he wants me to spend the night at his house, and if I am not at his house he calls me/texts me all the time. He does all this yet continues to say this is just as friends, it is all platonic, etc. IDK about any of you, but I do not spoon my friends and nuzzle their necks while in bed.

I don't know if he is using me to fill a void, if he actually wants to start something, or if he is just fucking with me. The fact that I have feelings for him is brought up at least twice a week, so he KNOWS it is there.

He is such a gentleman so I really don't think he is fucking with me and we are both finding comfort in dealing with this huge life change in each other, so it's not like I am feeling used. But this (the feelings and him acting this way) has been going on for at least 6 weeks and I have been dating (not sleeping with) other people, but it hasn't changed the fact that I want to be with him..

I don't know if I should just tell him that he can either ask me on an actual date and we can give this a try otherwise we have to end it all, or if I should just wait it out for a while longer?

We were both really hurt in our breakups, so I don't want to hurt him but I don't want to be hurt either.