This may be controversial, but beyond some very basic things, I don’t think physical intimacy is a skill you learn. I think every partner is different and you have to have the mindset of playing the “warmer/colder” game, trying things and paying close attention to the reactions and learning through trial and error what works and what doesn’t, getting ever closer and closer to exactly what works for the person you’re with.

I don’t think it’s practice, I don’t think it’s tricks you can learn. I think it’s paying close attention, making educated guesses, watching the reaction, and learning about your partner like a video game with no instructions.

If you can tell he’s learning how to “play your game” then there is hope. If he is just mashing buttons aimlessly and then putting down the controller in frustration, then I don’t know if there is hope.