This is so very relatable. All of it. I don’t try hard to keep women friends now. If I have to force it and if she does lots of backhanded compliments, I don’t bother. Then occasionally I talk to a woman friend who is down to earth and cool. I just don’t expect big groups to be like that. I am direct and had lots of male cousins and brothers so I dunno, plus my mom wasn’t traditionally feminine.

It doesn’t help that I was also assaulted or come on to by women I thought only wanted friendship.

So I have trust issues. I just do my best to reach out to cool women, sometimes they stay in touch sometimes not. I have my bf and some of our friends.

It actually helps to be friends with his friends’ wives. So far I’m not super close with them, but have had good convos.

Sounds like you’re being with your bf is making him more desired, the same way a bikini model next to a car draws more people to the car. That’s so annoying, but he ignores them so it’s all ok.