If you do want to get married, then make yourself into marriage material. Lose your trust issues, gain some skills and assets so that way you have something good to bring into the marriage and as little baggage as possible. Be the best husband you can be and hold yourself to a high standard.

Good advice. Imagine what a marriage would be like if both spouses focus on making themselves "into marriage material." The "skills and assets" that are attractive to a woman are quite often very different than those attractive to a man, but this could still be applied to both spouses.

My wife and I have addressed this. I've worked on (and am still working on) being "the best husband" I can be and holding myself "to a high standard." My wife wants to be with a man who does that. Similarly, I want to be with a woman who is working on being "the best wife" she can be and holding herself "to a high standard." I'm concerned with what I "bring to the table" and my wife is concerned with what she "brings to the table."

If one of us stops working on these things individually in ourselves, then we're almost certainly dooming our marriage to being unfulfilling and sad. This is the type of "alpha" or "red pill" advice that matters to me: not the PUA stuff, but the idea that I can be (or work to become) someone who I like and someone who makes the world a better place. Those efforts also happen to be some of the things that make my wife attracted to me.

This is just my humble opinion: women are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves in this day and age. We don't need men like we used to.

I'm not sure what your larger point is here, but good to know. I don't think it would be healthy for me to expect a woman to "need" me like she needs food or air. I prefer to be with someone who wants me, someone who I want because of the value we add to each others' lives. We should never lose sight of that value, on both sides.